RELATIONSHIPS: The Importance Of Sex Part 2

‘The Importance Of Sex Part 1’ written by Dr Matthew Anderson published in Great Health Guide (June 2017). In part 1, Dr Anderson discussed what is the first reason that causing relationship rift. In this article, he explains the second main reason that falling the sexual intimacy with your partner and how to successfully improve the relationship. 

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RELATIONSHIPS: The Importance Of Sex Part 2

written by Dr Matthew Anderson

In the May issue of Great Health Guide™, I stated that over 2000 women clients have provided reasons for not being sexually attracted to their husband or partner.

They have shared many reasons but those reasons ALL fall into two simple and distinct categories. The first reason discussed in Great Health Guide™ was: You don’t act like a man.

In this issue, I will discuss the second main reason: You don’t act like an adult.The fact is adults only want sex with other adults. Sexual intimacy between humans is designed to be conducted between two consenting adults. If one partner exhibits too much childish or immature behavior, then her or his partner will naturally lose interest. For example, if a partner (male or female) behaves like a child, the natural incest taboo is activated and the other partner, who is behaving as an adult or a parent, will naturally avoid sexual contact. Adults and parents are programmed to avoid sexual contact with children even if that child is physically over one-year-old.

What follows are reasons or examples of things men do or don’t do, that cause loss of sexual interest in their partners.

Most, if not all examples, can be connected to the following two reasons and apply to over 95% of men: 

• too little masculine energy or behavior

or

• too much childish behaviours.

You don’t act like an adult:

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Countless wives make statements such as: ‘I gave birth to two children but I often feel as if I have three’. These wives are turned off sexually because they experience their husbands as immature or childish. Adult women do not find children or adolescents sexually attractive. As I stated above, adult human beings are naturally structured to avoid sex with children and adolescents. If a wife has a constant experience of her husband as immature, she will quickly lose a desire to connect with him sexually. Yes, he may be a good guy and he may have quite a few positive qualities. However, if he acts like a child too often, she will not be attracted to him.

A man will be seen as childish/adolescent if he frequently grabs his wife’s behind, makes adolescent jokes, refuses to take adult responsibility for bills, ordinary household chores and childcare, takes his children’s side against his wife, does not practice good hygiene, tries to turn all physical contact into sexual foreplay, makes sports (watching or viewing) more important than quality time with her, cannot be emotionally intimate, refuses to learn to dress himself appropriately, does not pick up after himself, has to constantly be reminded to handle normal responsibilities, avoids disciplining the children…the list is endless but the point is clear. Too many men act like children and then get upset because their wives do not respond to their advances.

Pay attention, act like a man and make some adult decisions. She will love you for it!