‘Become the Perfect Date’ written by Melanie Schilling published in Great Health Guide (June 2017). Dating can be really hard when we do not understand why rejections occur or when dating doesn’t lead to a good relationship. Perhaps we don’t fully understand how to find the perfect date? We need to start by loving and appreciating ourselves first. In this must-read article, dating coach and psychologist Melanie explains the foundations of a great relationship and how to become the best version of yourself.
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RELATIONSHIPS: Become The Perfect Date
written by Melanie Schilling
Dating is hard. Sometimes it’s really hard. It can play to your deepest fears and insecurities. Sometimes the couch and a bottle of wine seem so much more appealing than putting yourself out there for scrutiny.
Putting yourself out there and announcing to the world that you are looking for love can make you very vulnerable. Whilst this vulnerability is a necessary part of the process (it increases your attractiveness to potential dates), it does not have to be overwhelming.
By learning to love and appreciate yourself first – before looking for love and appreciation from someone else, you will be in a stronger position to start a great relationship. When you live your best life, you are more attractive to others. So, by investing in yourself, you benefit from a secondary pay-off: becoming magnetic to potential dates.
The foundation of any great relationship is self-love, also known as self-respect, self-confidence and self-esteem. So where do you start? How to become the best version of YOU.
There are four very basic things you can do to present yourself in the most positive fashion. Work on these BEFORE you work on your new hairdo or invest in a new dress. When your inner self is stronger and more confident the outside will shine even more.
1. BE GRATEFUL:
Start by taking stock of all the positive things in your life and practicing gratitude. Research shows that practicing daily gratitude improves physical, psychological and social well-being. This is exactly what is needed for dating success!
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