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GREAT HEALTH: What is Bullying? Part 1

GREAT HEALTH: What is Bullying? Part 1

‘What is Bullying Part 1’ by Suzanne Henwood published in Great Health Guide (May 2016). Bullying can be a common occurrence in the workplace and we need to take steps to recognise if this is happening to you. In part 1 of this series, Suzanne explains how to recognise if you are being bullied.
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GREAT HEALTH: What is Bullying Part 1

written by Suzanne Henwood

If I asked you what is bullying – I wonder how you would reply? We often think of bullying as something which affects children. But it is also a real problem for many adults in the workplace. Knowing how to recognise bullying is the first step to taking action and being able to say ‘It is not OK’. Knowledge will give you confidence to know what is not alright in a professional context so that you can do something about it.

Trudy Ludwig (a children’s book author) offers a nice distinction about bullying compared to other behaviour. She talks about how bullying is not just about someone being rude (which might be a one off, unplanned slight which offends or hurts you), nor is it being mean (doing or saying something deliberately to hurt someone else as an isolated event). I am sure most of us have experienced rudeness and meanness at some point. And I am not saying they are OK either – but bullying is something different again.

What is bullying? 

Bullying is a deliberate, intentional and sustained aggressive behaviour, aimed at a person (or group) which is deemed to be unreasonable and includes an imbalance of power. 

Bullying may include any of the following behaviours: 

  • physical (but there are usually clear rules to prevent this in the workplace)

  • verbal, including intimidation, humiliation or ridicule 

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  • unfair or constant criticism 

  • threatening behaviour

  • unfair allocation or distribution of work 

  • withholding information or undervaluing contribution 

  • withdrawing support or even ignoring and socially isolating someone

  • This list is not meant to be exhaustive, but rather to show the range of behaviours which come under a definition of bullying. I wonder if you are surprised by that? Or, whether knowing that – you suspect you might be being bullied at work – and if so does that knowing empower you to take any different action?

This is testimony in a real life case by a senior executive in a major company, who experienced an unexpected form of bullying. He faced this bullying in a workplace and thought it was just part of a difficult work environment:

 

“I got stuck in a downward spiral. I questioned the number of hours I was working. I was being asked to take on more work and had logged roughly 75 hours a week for the last four months, even though I am contracted to work almost half that time. I was willing to take on the new work if something else was taken away but got told ‘you are a senior member of staff – we expect more of you’. But I couldn’t do more, so I said no. Then the bullying began. In some ways it was quite nebulous and hard to tackle (a ‘he said she said’ type scenario), but the next few months saw my job disintegrate as existing roles were taken from me as punishment and I was gradually isolated, removed from meetings, not even included in any of the new developments. I didn’t realise that was bullying, ‘til I sought advice… It was the isolation that was hardest for me to cope with – harder than being shouted at: I could have argued my case for that. But to just be ignored, cut out – that was the worst form of bullying I could have experienced as I am a people person, a contributor, an activator, I needed that connection. I was staggered at how deeply it affected me, I started to doubt my own ability – when really it was not about my capability at all. I really struggled to go on …”

This is a real experience of a man who was subjected to an unexpected form of bullying. Indeed, it was only through seeking support that he recognized it for what it was. Knowing that helped him to begin to plan how to respond.

So what do we need to know about bullying?

There are three important elements to bullying: 

  • the action is intentional 

  • the actions are sustained over time and 

  • there is an imbalance of power at play. 

If you are experiencing difficulties in the workplace, just assess any behaviours against those criteria and if you can tick yes to all three – seek support – you might be experiencing bullying. What is important to know here, is that you do not have to cope with it alone and you do not have to tolerate it in a workplace. 

As this experience and the literature shows us, bullying can have devastating impacts on an individual, from threats to identity, lowered self-esteem, stress, depression, lack of energy, difficulty sleeping, impact on diet, emotional burnout, health symptoms, even leading to suicide attempts. It is commonplace that people will even blame themselves and get trapped in a downward spiral; getting more tired and more stressed and feeling even more helpless – so that they will be even less able to take steps to get themselves out of the situation in an appropriate way.

The good news is there are ways to change the cycle – take back control and put a line in the sand and say ‘Enough Is Enough’ and ‘This Is Not OK’. 

I will be sharing another two articles in the next two editions of Great Health GuideTM which will give you some simple steps to say ‘No’ to bullying and put you on a new path to protecting yourself in the work place.

Author of this article:
Suzanne Henwood is the Director of the company and the lead coach and a Master Trainer in multiple Brain Integration Techniques (mBIT). She is one of only 8 Master Trainers in mBIT globally. With a PhD in professional development, she has worked in higher education and development for 25 years and has authored numerous books, book chapters and articles, with a particular emphasis in communication, leadership, personal and professional development. She also frequently presents at academic conferences internationally. Suzanne ensures shared core values of Integrity, Authenticity, Quality, Respect, Value, Passion and Fun are maintained. She can be contacted through her website.

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